If reading that word doesn’t make you want to hide under the covers, you are a more well-adjusted person than I am. Did you know that the word ‘failure’ is the most feared word in the English language according to me?
It’s not hard to figure out we all hate failure so much. If you want something and you work towards it and don’t get it, that’s bad. Simple as that.
And hating failure is not a bad thing. If you fail at something and it doesn’t bother you, it obviously didn’t mean that much to you in the first place. It’s normal, healthy, and helpful to dislikefailure.
It’s not normal, healthy, or helpful to fear failure so intensely that it keeps you from pursuing things that matter to you. Okay, maybe it is pretty normal. But it’s definitely not healthy or helpful. The problem with fearing failure is that it hampers our motivation and our creativity. Even more dangerously, it can devastatingly damage our happiness. If we never pursue the things that really interest us, we’ll never be truly happy. This is why I've taught my kids to attempt to fail each day, and I even ask them to share their biggest "fail" at dinner time. I want them to practice failing, so they can learn to overcome the fear of failure and embrace the rewards that come from rising when you fall. We have a lot of fun laughing off some big fails, and in the process gaining courage to attempt hard things each day.
Take a second to think about this: What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?
No, think about it a little longer. Think about all those cool things that you’ve seen other people doing and thought “Man, that would be so cool.” Why live a life of regret and fear?
What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?
What have you always wanted to do?
What’s stopping you?